Obviously I was incredibly
excited to see all my friends again after not having been all together since
September! I think none of us were entirely sure how it would work – we all
hoped we’d just slip back into the same friendship we’d had before, but there
was no way of knowing for sure. After all, people had moved away from home for
the first time, been living independently, and had made new friends. For Joe
and me things had changed too, we’d got used to being just the two of us a lot
of the time, and both had jobs which kept us busy.
However, it was crazy how
easy everything felt when we were all back together. We were sharing our own
news, but nobody was trying to ‘one-up’ anyone else or prove they’d made the
most new friends. I should have known really – my best friends are nothing like
that, and a few months apart couldn’t change how we were together.
The big change I did find
hard was things with Em, my best friend. Things had been difficult for us both
whilst she was away at uni, and although I’d hoped we’d be back to normal over
Christmas, things didn’t improve. We’ve spoken since, and it’s not as though
we’ve stopped our friendship, but things are definitely different. Who can say
if it’s university that was the change - being apart so long, both of us making
new friends, growing apart maybe – or if things would have changed anyway, but
it has been difficult.
Don’t let anyone tell you
that everyone will come back from uni different, and that you won’t be friends
in the same way, but also don’t convince yourself that nothing will change –
people do change, and that’s how life works. Someone once said to consider your
life in ten years’ time. Do you want it to be exactly as it is now? Chances
are, probably not. Change is inevitable; try not to be afraid of it.
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